A tribute to a pair of loyal parents

Lately I have been quite divided on the action taken by the parents upon their children.  Their roles and responsibilities have put so much restrictions to their very own lives. I decided to write a tribute to a pair of parent whom i known quite well.

Mr. and Mrs. S were formerly from Shanghai.  In Shanghai, Mr S is a very active opera singer and was sought after in most of the events.  While Mrs. S was a doctor and specialized at lungs area in China.  Both of them are successful and, met and married in Shanghai.  After their first son was born in the 70s, the couple would like a better life for their son. Hence with Mrs S accreditation, the family moved to Hong Kong. This would provide their son a better future in terms of education and living.  However, Mr S ended up working as a factory worker, while the wife managed to find a job as a clerk in an export/import business.  Over many years, the couple worked really hard, and later they have another baby daughter. 

Overall, their living was just below average, they worked very hard to save money for their children.  20 years later, the son managed to find a decent job in a airline company, while the daughter grew up closer to the mother, as the father was mostly out at a factory.  Mrs S was promoted as a manager and was the breadwinner for the family.  The family I assumed was happy, however, there were a lot of challenges especially living in Hong Kong, where properties are scarce and very expensive.  When I first met the family they appeared to be very humble but they appeared to be happy.  The parents hard work seems to pay off, however, they were in their 50s at that time.  Eventually, Mr S has to retire, while only Mrs S and her son is working to support the family.  The son got married and has 2 sons, however, he did not spend much time with his father, instead he was too busy chasing dreams.  If the elder couple was lucky they may see their son's family few times a year although they live in the same island.

Few years ago, Mrs. S died of cancer, and she being a doctor she knew her own fate.  Before she went away, she wrote notes and placed them strategically at every place so that Mr. S will not forget where and what to do after her passing.  Mr. S was left alone with his non communicative daughter at home.  While the daughter who spent most of her communication with her mom, she found there was nothing much in common with the stranger at home - her father.

I am very touched with Mr and Mrs dedication.  They could have their own golden dreams during their heyday, but they choose for their children.  They practically became a labour in order to raise the family in an expensive Hong Kong island.  In the end, their children, grown apart from them, just because the children has their own dreams.  I do not think the elderly couple expecting a lot from their children, however, it was kinda sad to see Mr. S is pretty much alone by himself.

I am grateful I met Mr and Mrs S.  Their dedication and sacrifices they have made.  I just wish one day Mr S deserves more from this lives.

Addictions

In this day and age, addictions are becoming part of our lives.  Addictions to drugs, steal, sex, chatting, games, and power have been overtaking our sane mind.

Few months back, while I was shopping at a mall in Sydney, I saw a lady dressed decently walking out from a hair care shop.  Few minutes later, 2 shopkeepers ran to her and block her from walking further.  I can't hear exactly what was the reason, however the lady tried to walk further but this time the 2 men was grabbing her arms.  Minutes later, a shopping mall lady guard holding the walkie talkie and appeared in front of them.  This time, the lady security guard asked the lady shopper to open up her bags.  Later they found she has took unpaid products from a shop.  She appeared to have been stealing.

The lady shopper dropped her bag and wanting to walk past the people who apprehended her.  This time, her face turn red and she was about to burst to tears.  In the end, the 2 men dragged her practically, while her legs was dragging on the floor begging to be released.

At that point I wonder why would she do it.  I suspect sometimes people are addicted to do what they knows are wrong.  Once they tried it they may thought they are invincible.  However, these addictions may not be cut off if they have not realized the harm they had done to themselves or others.  For now, I could only hope the lady would come to a realization, and able to break from this addiction.