When the trust is breached ...

When a trust is breached would we ever forgive over what has happened? I guess it will takes time through proving oneself of their worth. If one attempted to prove then he other party may need to view the action in a positive lights rather than judging based on emotions. What make it worse was rumor mongers tried very hard to use scare tactic to derail the trust building process. I guess for me I tend to go against the rumor mongers. The question is why are they reacting this way? What are they protecting? I may never know but I can choose to ignore.

What is successful children?

I had been talking to a few friends and colleagues, and everyone seems to have a common concern. How do you raise a successful child? I guess everyone has their own way depending on the parents' make up. However, I managed to talk to a successful entrepreneur in India. She is the only female businesswomen in the top 100 businessmen in India. Her opinion about raising successful kids are making sure they are good citizen and has a social responsibility. Also, whether the parents are rich or poor, but equipped with the right social and honest attitude, she believes the kids will survive. She doesn't believe we all should just look after ourselves. She believes in giving. I guess everyone has their own interpretation. What's yours?

I am back with a new chapter

In 2 more weeks I am officially unemployed. However, I made a choice to go back to college and to pursue my Counseling career. I will be back here and write more of the new chapter of my life.

Pocket Diet

I am halfway through my December holidays. While in UK I didnt do much sightseeing but rather takes things slowly and walk around the familiar streets. It was kind of fun to discover changes in the city and able to relate them from the past. Also, this Christmas shopping I thought I was not aggressive compared to the previous years. But online shoppings are addictive! Even before arriving into London, I have my goods delivered to an UK address well advance. My purchases for this year: A casual messenger leather bag A canvas carry all bag A canvas tote bag for working A leather card wallet A blazer A key wallet I noticed this year I was stuffing myself with bags. All in all it was a whopping amount by just clicking and clicking! Now I have to go back to pocket diet. No more bags no more online shopping! No more excuses I hope!

Mirror

I was listening intently to a person telling me his issues and difficulties surrounding his families' members. I heard dissatisfaction, unjustified actions, ill intention of others and non confirmed assumptions of each action. Obviously the person was deeply angered to the core, but all this while due to social needs, the feelings were coated with a layer of smiling mask. The irony was before the story, I assumed the person was fair and generous. However once I heard the story there were so many layers of faces behind the person. I started to ask myself, has the person we described has been ourselves. I come to realized there are genuinely innocent victims who spilling out their mistreatment but there are also people who appeared calm but atvtheir back of their mind they have already calculated every incidents. What set this 2 apart appears to me the core naturevof the person, innocence versus a very active plotter who will plan the advantages or disadvantages accordingly through the mask the wear. All sometimes it may sound the person is innocence but deep inside them there maybe a great dissatisfaction that is just waiting to surface through making excuses that it was somebody's fault. Next time when I want to complaint, I will ask if I am innocence or a plotter to gain support.

Applying for 2nd jobs

Few weeks ago, I have written to my college and have asked the coordinator to help me to find a job.  Just yesterday, I got a reply and was asked to write to Hillsong organisation.  Basically, Hillsong runs a church services, but they also have medical center which focus on mental health.

I have submitted my application today, however, I noticed there may be some obstacles in either getting or doing the job.  First, the potential mentor only works weekdays during office hour. With my current job, it's impossible for me to do 1 or 2 day voluntarily work during this time.  On top of that, the professional counselor does not work on weekends.  The most, I can work after hours meaning from 5pm onwards for few hours with certain client.  I was expected to perform the 1 on 1 with the client and keep a diary of my client.

I only foresee challenges as I knew my current corporate role is very demanding of my time. I am expected to answer anytime when they need me even after hour.  Though I can reject, but it's just simply expected out from you.  Now, how can I balance the jobs not even considering my life.

One way out is to check my bank balance and check if I could survive without the corporate job for a year.  Focus on my study and voluntarily work, then only I will decide if I still want to go back to the corporate world.  It is a very tough decision but it all depends on how much and how long I could survives on my own.

A tribute to a pair of loyal parents

Lately I have been quite divided on the action taken by the parents upon their children.  Their roles and responsibilities have put so much restrictions to their very own lives. I decided to write a tribute to a pair of parent whom i known quite well.

Mr. and Mrs. S were formerly from Shanghai.  In Shanghai, Mr S is a very active opera singer and was sought after in most of the events.  While Mrs. S was a doctor and specialized at lungs area in China.  Both of them are successful and, met and married in Shanghai.  After their first son was born in the 70s, the couple would like a better life for their son. Hence with Mrs S accreditation, the family moved to Hong Kong. This would provide their son a better future in terms of education and living.  However, Mr S ended up working as a factory worker, while the wife managed to find a job as a clerk in an export/import business.  Over many years, the couple worked really hard, and later they have another baby daughter. 

Overall, their living was just below average, they worked very hard to save money for their children.  20 years later, the son managed to find a decent job in a airline company, while the daughter grew up closer to the mother, as the father was mostly out at a factory.  Mrs S was promoted as a manager and was the breadwinner for the family.  The family I assumed was happy, however, there were a lot of challenges especially living in Hong Kong, where properties are scarce and very expensive.  When I first met the family they appeared to be very humble but they appeared to be happy.  The parents hard work seems to pay off, however, they were in their 50s at that time.  Eventually, Mr S has to retire, while only Mrs S and her son is working to support the family.  The son got married and has 2 sons, however, he did not spend much time with his father, instead he was too busy chasing dreams.  If the elder couple was lucky they may see their son's family few times a year although they live in the same island.

Few years ago, Mrs. S died of cancer, and she being a doctor she knew her own fate.  Before she went away, she wrote notes and placed them strategically at every place so that Mr. S will not forget where and what to do after her passing.  Mr. S was left alone with his non communicative daughter at home.  While the daughter who spent most of her communication with her mom, she found there was nothing much in common with the stranger at home - her father.

I am very touched with Mr and Mrs dedication.  They could have their own golden dreams during their heyday, but they choose for their children.  They practically became a labour in order to raise the family in an expensive Hong Kong island.  In the end, their children, grown apart from them, just because the children has their own dreams.  I do not think the elderly couple expecting a lot from their children, however, it was kinda sad to see Mr. S is pretty much alone by himself.

I am grateful I met Mr and Mrs S.  Their dedication and sacrifices they have made.  I just wish one day Mr S deserves more from this lives.