The lesson in Belanja and Generosity!

Belanja (a treat) is tie with generosity? Is this true, urrm wait a minute how about this story here ....

I have paid my host a 30 days rental, and it came up to 40aud each day. However, my stay cut short due to travelling. Net of it, I have to leave 2 days earlier, which means I have overpaid 80aud. I told my host it's ok, leave it as it is, when he said he may want to refund me. I told him he can pay me back in a form of lunch or dinner. He agreed.

Yesterday, he told me he will buy me lunch. We went out, and had a kebab mix plate which cost AUD20. However, I told him I can't have other meat than chicken, while the mix plate came with a strip of chicken, beef and lamb. He told me I can have all the chicken. So in the end, the meal itself I have only ate 1/3 of the whole plate. To be exact it comes up to 7 or 8AUD. When we about to finish, I told him it's ok I can pay my portion which I don't mind paying 10AUD. He said no no no I BELANJA. I agreed then since he really has nothing to lose.

After that, we walked out and passed by several shops. He stopped and looked at the sugar cane shop. He said, 'Wow this looks nice, probably I should have one. do you want one?" I said, 'No Thanks.", Then he said, 'OK it's your turn to TREAT me now, I want one". I was taken aback. I didn't ask for a treat, but now he insisted that it was my turn to pay now. The sugar cane drink cost 4.50AUD. So back to my maths, the treat given by him was 8AUD now minus off 4.50AUD = The entire treat I got was 3.50AUD.

I was thinking to myself, why do you want to BELANJA me, when you start showing some of this trait where I must be fair to each other? Generosity is about not expecting something back. I guess I am wrong, every one has their own definition of Generosity and BELANJA. After today, I told him I don't plan to eat out with him. No hard feelings, but it's less complicated this way :-)