Pocket Diet

I am halfway through my December holidays. While in UK I didnt do much sightseeing but rather takes things slowly and walk around the familiar streets. It was kind of fun to discover changes in the city and able to relate them from the past. Also, this Christmas shopping I thought I was not aggressive compared to the previous years. But online shoppings are addictive! Even before arriving into London, I have my goods delivered to an UK address well advance. My purchases for this year: A casual messenger leather bag A canvas carry all bag A canvas tote bag for working A leather card wallet A blazer A key wallet I noticed this year I was stuffing myself with bags. All in all it was a whopping amount by just clicking and clicking! Now I have to go back to pocket diet. No more bags no more online shopping! No more excuses I hope!

Mirror

I was listening intently to a person telling me his issues and difficulties surrounding his families' members. I heard dissatisfaction, unjustified actions, ill intention of others and non confirmed assumptions of each action. Obviously the person was deeply angered to the core, but all this while due to social needs, the feelings were coated with a layer of smiling mask. The irony was before the story, I assumed the person was fair and generous. However once I heard the story there were so many layers of faces behind the person. I started to ask myself, has the person we described has been ourselves. I come to realized there are genuinely innocent victims who spilling out their mistreatment but there are also people who appeared calm but atvtheir back of their mind they have already calculated every incidents. What set this 2 apart appears to me the core naturevof the person, innocence versus a very active plotter who will plan the advantages or disadvantages accordingly through the mask the wear. All sometimes it may sound the person is innocence but deep inside them there maybe a great dissatisfaction that is just waiting to surface through making excuses that it was somebody's fault. Next time when I want to complaint, I will ask if I am innocence or a plotter to gain support.

Applying for 2nd jobs

Few weeks ago, I have written to my college and have asked the coordinator to help me to find a job.  Just yesterday, I got a reply and was asked to write to Hillsong organisation.  Basically, Hillsong runs a church services, but they also have medical center which focus on mental health.

I have submitted my application today, however, I noticed there may be some obstacles in either getting or doing the job.  First, the potential mentor only works weekdays during office hour. With my current job, it's impossible for me to do 1 or 2 day voluntarily work during this time.  On top of that, the professional counselor does not work on weekends.  The most, I can work after hours meaning from 5pm onwards for few hours with certain client.  I was expected to perform the 1 on 1 with the client and keep a diary of my client.

I only foresee challenges as I knew my current corporate role is very demanding of my time. I am expected to answer anytime when they need me even after hour.  Though I can reject, but it's just simply expected out from you.  Now, how can I balance the jobs not even considering my life.

One way out is to check my bank balance and check if I could survive without the corporate job for a year.  Focus on my study and voluntarily work, then only I will decide if I still want to go back to the corporate world.  It is a very tough decision but it all depends on how much and how long I could survives on my own.

A tribute to a pair of loyal parents

Lately I have been quite divided on the action taken by the parents upon their children.  Their roles and responsibilities have put so much restrictions to their very own lives. I decided to write a tribute to a pair of parent whom i known quite well.

Mr. and Mrs. S were formerly from Shanghai.  In Shanghai, Mr S is a very active opera singer and was sought after in most of the events.  While Mrs. S was a doctor and specialized at lungs area in China.  Both of them are successful and, met and married in Shanghai.  After their first son was born in the 70s, the couple would like a better life for their son. Hence with Mrs S accreditation, the family moved to Hong Kong. This would provide their son a better future in terms of education and living.  However, Mr S ended up working as a factory worker, while the wife managed to find a job as a clerk in an export/import business.  Over many years, the couple worked really hard, and later they have another baby daughter. 

Overall, their living was just below average, they worked very hard to save money for their children.  20 years later, the son managed to find a decent job in a airline company, while the daughter grew up closer to the mother, as the father was mostly out at a factory.  Mrs S was promoted as a manager and was the breadwinner for the family.  The family I assumed was happy, however, there were a lot of challenges especially living in Hong Kong, where properties are scarce and very expensive.  When I first met the family they appeared to be very humble but they appeared to be happy.  The parents hard work seems to pay off, however, they were in their 50s at that time.  Eventually, Mr S has to retire, while only Mrs S and her son is working to support the family.  The son got married and has 2 sons, however, he did not spend much time with his father, instead he was too busy chasing dreams.  If the elder couple was lucky they may see their son's family few times a year although they live in the same island.

Few years ago, Mrs. S died of cancer, and she being a doctor she knew her own fate.  Before she went away, she wrote notes and placed them strategically at every place so that Mr. S will not forget where and what to do after her passing.  Mr. S was left alone with his non communicative daughter at home.  While the daughter who spent most of her communication with her mom, she found there was nothing much in common with the stranger at home - her father.

I am very touched with Mr and Mrs dedication.  They could have their own golden dreams during their heyday, but they choose for their children.  They practically became a labour in order to raise the family in an expensive Hong Kong island.  In the end, their children, grown apart from them, just because the children has their own dreams.  I do not think the elderly couple expecting a lot from their children, however, it was kinda sad to see Mr. S is pretty much alone by himself.

I am grateful I met Mr and Mrs S.  Their dedication and sacrifices they have made.  I just wish one day Mr S deserves more from this lives.

Addictions

In this day and age, addictions are becoming part of our lives.  Addictions to drugs, steal, sex, chatting, games, and power have been overtaking our sane mind.

Few months back, while I was shopping at a mall in Sydney, I saw a lady dressed decently walking out from a hair care shop.  Few minutes later, 2 shopkeepers ran to her and block her from walking further.  I can't hear exactly what was the reason, however the lady tried to walk further but this time the 2 men was grabbing her arms.  Minutes later, a shopping mall lady guard holding the walkie talkie and appeared in front of them.  This time, the lady security guard asked the lady shopper to open up her bags.  Later they found she has took unpaid products from a shop.  She appeared to have been stealing.

The lady shopper dropped her bag and wanting to walk past the people who apprehended her.  This time, her face turn red and she was about to burst to tears.  In the end, the 2 men dragged her practically, while her legs was dragging on the floor begging to be released.

At that point I wonder why would she do it.  I suspect sometimes people are addicted to do what they knows are wrong.  Once they tried it they may thought they are invincible.  However, these addictions may not be cut off if they have not realized the harm they had done to themselves or others.  For now, I could only hope the lady would come to a realization, and able to break from this addiction.

Aging is ...

In my opinion aging is a "process of stripping our pride". 

Since we were young we were full of confidence and prideful.  We must always win or be right.  However, as we aged, we found slowly we are being stripped from these feelings.  Eventually, when we could not support ourselves, humiliation filled up our feelings.

I have been telling myself, probably it's good to have some humility at lives now.  To prepare myself to accept humiliation in the later part of my life.

Anger and regrets

My manager which I often has conflict with is moving to another role in next 2 days.  Many people which I shared my anger with asked if I would be happier.  To be honest, I am not sure if I would.  This conflict is only one of the challenges which I have in my current job.  However, when I look back, should I stop complaining about her now?  I think I should.

I often asked myself in the past, when can I stop talking about the conflicts I had with her.  Though I did not have the intention to hurt the manager, but by sharing with others, it's an act of non intentional damage.  I may not know what rumors other may create and indirectly hurt the person.  I never thought of this when I am in an angry mode.  I would like to try to make sense what I did was right or wrong, which trigger such treatment in the first place.  When I failed to find the logic which fits with my principle, I vent my anger and validate my own feelings.

Last week, I started to read about the principle of karma.  I put some interest in these teachings because I noticed the similarities in the Counseling course which I took.  In the teaching, it mentioned, in order to gain good deeds, you need to stop or limit doing the bad things.  These bad things could be intentional or unintentional actions.  In the past, I could not find a good reason to stop talking about her.  But now I do.  I believe in good deeds and stop causing too much ripple in other people's life.

These days, instead of harping on the things which had happened, I will shrugged off by saying, my former boss has a different way of managing the business.  Different people has different style, but I may not necessary click with that style.  I learned and I want to move on.

The tale of the 3 Bangkok tailors

During my trip to Bangkok, I have decided to make a few shirts. However, it's not the shirt which I can buy from a ready-to-wear shop. It's a shirt which I bought at Shanghai Tang few years ago, and I like it very much. It was the right size, right mandarin collar, and the right fitting. So I thought instead of paying a premium price, why not send it to a shop to copy it! After a few search in the internet and consulted the hotel concierge, I have narrowed down to 3 tailors which I will try. The story of the 3 tailors and the outcome are documented in the tales below.

Charlie's Design

It was the Westin hotel's concierge who recommendation. I have asked for a tailor that's reasonable and not hi-so (Thai expression for expensive)! Charlie's is tucked in Soi 16 of Sukhumvit Road, and it's situated very near to the famous ASOKE exchange. The Asok BTS and Sukhumvit Subway station intersected at this junction. Charlie's is run by a Indian family. I was greeted by Roger, a soft spoken Indian man who lives in Bangkok almost his entire life. I told him exactly what's my budget and showed him the design I want. He pointed to me the range of fabrics they kept in the shop, and of course it came with various prices and quality. The starting price was around 1000 baht for ok quality, medium quality range from 1200 to 1400 baht. The more expensive one are 1400 baht and above. I noticed, the collections of the fabric was not a lot especially when I was looking for medium priced plain color fabrics. They have more stripes fabric in many sizes. In the end I managed to get something I like and I was told I could collect the next day if I do not need any fitting but just copy the exact shirt I brought with me. The outcome was not bad. I was happy with the ok stitching, however, I was not too please with the material. I found it was soft to touch but when I wore it I felt a bit harsh. So make sure you place the fabric on your body or arms, to feel the material itself. For quick fix and no fuss tailoring, I think Charlie's did a good job.

Website : http://www.facebook.com/pages/Charlies-Design-Fashion-House-Bangkok/100565453367694 Address : 25/3 Sukhumvit Soi 16, Opposite Foodland, Bangkok, Thailand

Nickermann's

Next stop I went over to Nickermann's which is located at Landmark building not far from Nana BTS station. The shop is located at the lower ground of the lower building. I read in the internet, there were many happy return customers. However, sometimes you never know who posted those comments, so why not try out myself instead of relying on someone else? I walked around the fabrics area and dotting my eye on the collections they have. It wasn't a big collections but they have what I need. Plain and colored fabrics without any fuss on patterns or stripes. A lady which I suspected non Thai, but from India approached me and asked me what's my budget like. I told them around 1000 baht. They showed me all the fabrics which cost at 1200 baht. I touched it and I found the material was smoother and thicker compare to Charlie's. Immediately I found what I need. I ordered 2 shirts from themI , however, I need a special buttons. For additional request on buttons, I need to pay 200baht more plus there is a chance they won't able to find it. Then I went on with the design and they claimed they have done it, however, again, they do not have the button I needed. They only stock simple buttons, no fuss as well. They told me next time, I can bring my own button to replace them. Anyway, the next day the shirt was done and I checked on the stitches. It was not bad on the stitches, but the cut at Charlie's are better especially on my collar. Overall, it was a non noticeable cut. I am still happy with the outcome. In addition, the shop keep your record, if you need to order from overseas. All you need to do is to quote your record number and they will deliver to you.

Website : http://nickermanns.net
Address : 138 Sukhumvit Road, Landmark Hotel, Bangkok, Thailand.

Narin Couture

I learnt about Nari couture from the CNN Go website. It was listed as one of the respectable tailor in town. In another word, it's going to be 'hi-so'. I told myself, why not if the quality is impeccable? I also learnt the tailor came from a highly respected design school in London. I thought ok I shall surprise myself at Narin and I walked into the shop on a busy weekend. The shop was classy looking with a big collection of fabrics. Also, I noticed this is the only Thai-Chinese tailor that I have encountered. The other was mainly Thai-Indian tailors. He spoke in good English and I was told a minimum order of 3 shirts per order. Each shirt will cost at 2250 bath each. This is almost double the price at the earlier 2 shops. However, if it's good, why not!!?? I walked around the shop and I also noticed they have their very own tailors making the shirt. It appeared that the tailor can monitor these people's end products or while making them. I told myself, quality assurance must be very important at Narin. When I was ready to make my order, I was told it will take one week to make them. Nothing more nothing less! This was because they have too many orders and they could not fit the date I want. However, if I like, they can ship to me directly to my home address after making them. To my disapointment, I did not make any this trip. Although the tailor speaking with some 'air' in the tone, but I do believe he is very professional. He is the only tailor I noticed that dressed neatly like a businessman when dealing with his customers. Oh well, next time I will try again.

Website : http://www.narin-couture.com/home.html
Address : 180 Sukhumvit road, Klongtoey, Bangkok (next to Bangkok Bank and near Nana station)

Well done Datuk Lee Chong Wei

Thank you Datuk Lee, although we did not win a gold, however, thank you for the spirit to win! The games was very exciting and you have given your best! Malaysia Boleh!

Good deed and business

I went for a quick lunch today at my favorite food court. However instead of buying from my usual Korean/Japanese shop which sells sushi and teriyaki don, I went and tried another Japanese fast food stalls which served Tempura don. After buying my tempura don, I walked passed the quiet Korean/Japanese shop. The lady owner who usually doesn't smile, peeped at me (from the corner of my eye) then she walked back to the kitchen. After my meal, I thought probably I will buy a take away from my usual shop. I ordered seafood dumplings from her then I stood next to the display boxes of sushi and spring rolls near the cashier counter. After a few minutes while she was cooking, she walked towards me and asked me to sit down. I told her it's ok because I have been sitting down whole day. Then she said, but you are "blocking" my stalls! Then I walked further away from the shop. I was thinking to myself, first of all, there was nobody buying from her, and this order was really unnecessary for me. I did it out of good deeds, and I wasn't entirely blocking the whole shop, I was basically standing near the counter. I told myself, probably we shouldn't be executing good deeds when unnecessary. At the end of the day business is more important. I love money!

To forgive or not to forgive

Few weeks ago,I read in a local newspaper where an elderly man was selling some charity souvenirs near a tourist attractions. Later the newspaper took his picture and exposed him as the formerly child pedophile. He has served his jail time when he was younger. However, the way the newspaper painted him was like he is still a dangerous man, and how can he be selling souvenirs for charity company. The writer demand such people need to be verified before another saga is being made. I was reading and at the same time shaking my head in disbelief. Is this how unforgivable a human can be. So what do you want him to do instead? He has paid what he had done in the past, now he's trying to make a living. Are we assuming he will attack again? He is doing business on a broad daylight street, not on a quiet alley. What the possibilities it will go wrong? Even if kids wants to buy something from him, the possibility an adult will accompany them and pay for the item. In my opinion I just feel it's unfair. I think the way it was written was to determine he's not be seen anywhere and hopefully he will disappear silently. Out of sight out of mind, but in reality, it's does not work that way!

Vietnam, go, going, gone

I am back to Hanoi and Saigon this month. I still remembered when I first landed in Vietnam, I felt like I am back to my childhood place, where things are still laid back and friendly faces everywhere. Also, there are so many buildings and old districts with old architecture that make both Hanoi and Saigon different. However, since the last few years, things became to change. First, I noticed more food and souvenir stuffs getting more expensive. Young people are very fashionable now, although it's not as same par with developed countries yet. Properties prices skyrocketing, and Rolls Royce are rolling on the crawling street. I guess, it's a good sign where prosperity is flowing into the country. However, like everywhere else, there is a price. The inflation is getting higher here. New buildings are replacing the older ones, and the traffic has turned from bad to worse. Half of me, think it was a positive thing that could happened to Vietnam. Progressing and competing in the economy arena. Half of me, feeling bad that the modernization will snatch things which we may not recover later. While changes are inevitable, I will not let these stop me from savoring the goodness of Vietnam. Friendly faces and kind people. I just wish the country or even my own country will retain their culture and weed out people of extreme greed which may turn the country with a large poverty gap.

May you have peace

A colleague from jakarta messages me. Pak A has passesd away. He lost his battle to the nose cancer. I feel gutted and at the same time wonder would he be alright afterlife. For all I know we won't cross path again in this life but if life is a cycle, then I hope we will meet again. Previous posting on Pak A : http://rantingkiasuching.blogspot.com/2012/05/message-from-friend-with-cancer.html

Food for thought ...

The quote is from the actor Will Smith, and I found it so true :) Too many people spend money they haven't earned, to buy things they don't want, to impress people they don't like.

How to avoid snatch thieves ... Kiasu style!

I overheard in a Chinese program over the radio. The radio deejay was suggesting ways to overcome snatch thieves in Kuala Lumpur. The DJ said these days some ladies may not even carry anymore expensive handbags. Instead they trade with a "Bee Hiang" or "Wo Lai Yeh" plastic bags for grilled pork. It took me a while to figure out why must specifically these bags?! Then I realized because these bags are "tak halal". So the chances of people to snatch your bag may be lowered.

Modern Family .. you touch me you pay

Few days ago, I read a news in Australia paper where a grandmother was sued. Long story short, the grandmother woke up to a crying baby, and try to take her to downstairs. Worry she may woke up her son and daughter in law, she walked and slipped on the steps. The baby was badly hurt from the incident. The son and the daughter in law sued the granny for negligence and it became a first landmark case. The nanny will be punished by the law. I was so amazed with the story. No doubt the baby was hurt, but was it intentionally? Is this how you repay your mother because she fell? Instead she was blamed for not taking good care of the baby. I mean what has the world become? If I am the granny I won't even want to touch a single hair of my grandchildren. I worried I may get sued. What this incident shown me is the court can come to a conclusion where trust is no longer working. So don't touch me or else I will sue you even you are related to me!

French film festival, salut!

Just few days ago, France was nominated as world rudest city. However starting from 25 may to June 6 in GSC cinema in kuala lumpur, the French movie festival just kicked off. So far I saw "A cat in paris" and "service entrance". Both were exquisite. "service entrance" especially has o much heart in it. It's very very funny but romantic as well. It really worth the money I paid. I am targeting 3 more movies, "love anonymous", "korkoro" and "untouchables". All these are highly acclaimed movies in 2011. I am so grateful I can watch them in the one week.

Help help help!

Again, in the newspaper another young man appeared to commit suicide by falling down from a high floors. It's really a sad thing to hear at the age of 24, they student chose to make this decision. What more the student is from a medical school and a son of a renown skin specialist. As a newspaper reader I can only ask why? With cases like this on the rise, it just prove the price of modernization is increasing steeply. What we thought is silly solution appearing to be more common. Meanwhile, though I know I can't save the world, but I am more determined to work harder on my study, and eventually I can have a second career as a counselor. I may not be a savior but i can only do my part eventually and hopefully. However, I also believe, everyone can play a role, but are you willing to help? The story from Star : http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2012/5/25/nation/11358694&sec=nation

Sentiment

Since this week alone, 2 KL taxi drivers have been hinting to me how unhappy they are with the ruling party. I just keep my emotion check and query them why are they so unhappy. From what I gathered, even though they may be right or wrong, it's purely negative sentiment. They are frustrated. They want the leader to step down. My only concern is they may not see the big picture but use blame as a way to vent. No doubt the leader has it's good and bad moments, but sometimes it's really the best of 2 evils. For me, if I to vote, I want a politician who is not a business man. Second, a terms maximum for the government to be in office. Re-elect again after that. This way, everyone is under scrutinies if they did not perform. Then improvements may happened. These are my 2 cents.

Compromising integrity

Few days ago, I found I made a mistake in my work. I explained to the relevant party and admitted the mistake. However, it was not acceptable because the admission will means the customer may penalize us. For me, I feel we learn from mistake. Admit it and move on. However, to some party, admitting mistakes means weakness, and may jeopardize the dream to go higher and shine. The worst part was after I wanting to admit the mistake, I was told to write an additional line to my customer. This time it sounded like I did a check at that time, which I did not. However, it was insisted. I felt very bad because the person is practically asking me to paint another picture, and I feel it's an indirect lie. Anyway, I am trying to be as careful as I could because I need evidence that I am being truthful. Also, I wish the person who make me do this, good luck in the career, and hope the climbing up the ladder of success is smooth one. When the person stayed at top there just hope they will ask themselves, "Aren't you tired living like this?"

Mother's day

May 13 is mother's day. When I was young, I don't recall we celebrate. Then I remembered it started by giving cards and flowers 15 years ago. Now, most hotels, restaurants even shopping malls take this opportunity to sell you something on mother's day. The more the better and may signify how much you love our mothers. If you don't buy them, some mothers may became upsets. Welcome to the world of consumerism. For me mothers day is everyday and every small task we do counts.

A message from a friend with cancer ...

I met Pak A in his late 30s while I was working in Jakarta. That was 2 years ago, when I need to perform a review and conduct an education for the entire department in Jakarta. Pak A at that time was newly moved into the company. He was previously working for a small company and were offered to join our company. Throughout my work there, I worked closely with Pak A. We worked like a small team, but we knew what we need to do. We knew our place and delivery. I found he is very smart in what he is doing and he knows exactly what to deliver. Then last year, after one year with the company, I met him again, however I was in a different role. I found he found a new girl friend in the company and seems to be doing well. We greeted and catched up on our life. However, early this year, a bad incident happened to him. He was diagnosed with nose cancer. While I was in Jakarta this year, I tried to meet up with him. However, he lives very far away from the city. In order to get there, I need to catch a train and follow by a taxi. However, after certain hours, there is no train service. I wasn't sure how to get back after that. I rang him up and explained to him I failed to go to his place, however, we chatted and I was wondering his chance of recovering. He sounded normal, but a picture of him on my colleague's handphone shown him weak, fragile with a big burnt marked on his neck. The sight of it make me feel sorry for him. I ended the call telling him to call me if he needs to talk again. That was February. Today, I tried to ping my colleague and wonder how he is doing. Apparently he has to go through chemotherapy again as the cancer is spreading. A colleague in Jakarta today delivered a message from Pak A. He told everyone to forgive him if he has done anything inappropriate. He seek for forgiveness from us. I feel saddened by the message. However, there is nothing I can do at this point. According to my course, human has 3 level of desperation. First sign, is when we do not have enough food or shelter, we hunt for them. Second, if we do not have air or water to drink. However, at this moment, I feel we fall under the third category, we seek for miracle, only god could help us and Pak A. For I wish he will overcome this soon.

Parental love

I was waiting for a friend outside a supermarket. While waiting, I saw an Indian mother minding her probably 2 years old child. I was looking for a seat and I stood near her hoping there were available seat. As I drew closer to her, I eventually saw her baby girl. She has an eye that could hardly open, a face that looked abnormal, and when she speaks, it's more of a noise than a basic speech. She's thin and fragile. I think she is a challenged kids and does not look normal. Her mother looked at her, giving her a weak smile. Later, the father joined them, and they torn some bread out of a loaf, and fed her. Her father looked like just finished his day from work. She was smiling when fed, and the father hug her. What amazed me was, how much the parents persevere. If I am in the situation, I would be stress and may even ask why my children was created this way. I do not know what sort of stress the parents have gone through, but what I know they loved their baby girl very much, even with her disability. Some may not know how they do it, but parental love, it cannot be replaced or can be understood until you are the parents of the children.

Relationships and best interest

A colleague told me she went for a holiday with her family. They stayed in a hotel where she is a Platinum card holder where it allows you to use their lounge. However, the rule of the lounge is a member can bring only one person with her. However, she has 6 of them. When the lounge manager refused to let her in, she counted her days with the hotel, and how much she gave the business to them. Eventually, the manager let the whole family in, to me this is because the hotel understand the importance of the "relationship". Today, a partner could not deliver some important information to her. That was due to some business complications. We were told we follow the book, if they don't give, we penalised them. The partner tried very hard to explain the situation, but when you don't have evidence, we follow the book. Now that's what I see as my own best interest, and where is the relationship? When human is put in a situation, often, they only look after their interest. Relationship? what relationship?

I saw 'The Cha Boh' aka The Lady

I have been contemplating for 3 days whether I should watch 'The Cha Boh'. One of the reason was because a lot of critics didn't like it. They felt the story was boring. However, I thought to myself, I must show some support to the Burmese, and at the same time to my fellow Malaysian Michelle Yeoh. Finally, yesterday I convinced myself to watch it. Was it good?? Well, it was good. The pace was not really boring, however, I think they tried to follow Aung Yang Suu Kyi (ASSK) struggles religiously. My only complaint was towards the end, I lost the momentum, after knowing she was house arrested, then released, then house arrested, then relaxed again. I can only go so much for that suspense. However, that was the historical facts, it's really not the film makers' fault. Michelle Yeoh and all the casts were wonderful. I was moved by a few scenes. I felt choked in my throat and I actually feel saddened by what the Burmese has to face in their life. They want to breakfree for unfairness, yet, their destiny can never be changed. ASSK was urged to represent them, a voice, a symbol for their fight. I was particularly inspired, by 2 pivotal scenes. First, when she addressed to the Burmese for the first time. You can feel everyone sees hope in ASSK. It was such a moving scene. Second, was the Nobel price giving. She would like to listen to her family's voice, and she could only cluthed on the battery operated radio. After the speech, Bach's 'Air' was played, and she played her piano alone (with a maid) in the dark on the same song. It was a triumphant and tears of joy. I am sure everyone has their own expectations, however, The Lady hasn't failed me. I give it a 4 stars out of 5!

I want that ... juice!

I was waiting for my food at the McDonald's counter in Sydney. Then came a Chinese man in his 50s pointed to the cashier with his receipts. He said, 'Potatoes, potatoes', then followed by his finger showing he is dipping. Then he showed the cashier his receipts indicated he bought 2 french fries earlier. However, the cashier still not too sure what he wants. He then went on with the same action, this time, he said, 'Juice, juice, potatoes juice'. Then I finally realized he meant ketchup or tomato sauce. The girl gave him a few packets then he walked away. I think what amazed me was how hard for me to apply for the residency here. Without any basic English there is no hope to move in at all. However, there are still people who still can make it. Probably the procedures I have to go through makes me think it was tough. And probably money can also buy you a place, or happiness.

Titanic 100th anniversary

On April 19, 2012 is the 100th anniversary for Titanic. There are events held in some places to commemorate the event. At the same time, James Cameron re-released 'Titanic' and this time in 3D.

I decided to watch the movie last night though I have seen it several times in the cinema or DVD. I was more curious was it as good as it was claimed that the 3D version was even better. After sitting for over 3 hours in a cinema, I have to say the movie was still as exciting. The 3D version was really amazing especially the shot under the sea. Besides, the scene where the passengers were trying to flee from the ship to a smaller boats was very real. You felt as if you were there witnessing the chaos in front of you.

Besides I also noticed, there were some younger generations viewers in the cinema who obviously watching for the first time. I heard some sobbing over the unfortunate pair of lover in the movie. Titanic once again has captured the heart and attention of the moviegoers. If you are a 3D movie fan, don't miss it. It's so much better than most of the 3D movies which I have seen lately.

Tsunami alert @ Bandar Aceh

I was sitting at Sydney airport going to Melbourne at 8pm. The TV flashed out a breaking news where a massive earthquake of 8.6 ritcher scale has hit Bandar Aceh in Indonesia. The scene on the TV showing communities there were panicking and running out of the building. However, it seems there were more prepared. A big alert was sent out to other regions nearby and everyone evacuated accordingly too. It was a very well coordinated effort.

There were scenes where a group of women crying and her body was visibly shaken. Some were crying up as there weren't sure how to react to the situation. Some was seen praying as their only hope to survive. Moment like this I asked myself, is fame, fortune and status matters. When facing with an inevitable situation, we all may ended up in the same boat. I think we may not even have time to argue who is in a better position to survive. What we can only count on is what legacy we may have left behind. Let's hope the regions able to cope with this earthquake and tsunami. Also, I hope this play as a reminder to all of us that we become a better person towards each other.

Social classes and aging ...

When I walked around the mall I noticed some dressed to the 9th, and some dress like they don't have enough clothes to wear. For those who dressed exceptionally nice, has a tendency to be more confident, and may stare at you when you try to speak to them, as if you are speaking like an ET. While the less shiny group, tends to be smiley or very sensitive when you try to chat them up. Something is wrong with them, and they may snapped at you sometimes. That's what I have experienced sometimes.

I noticed, all of us tends to try to belong to mid or upper group. While the lower group may be viewed as a failure. To some, by displaying their wealth, physical look or the dining places they go may show u who they are. While the less fortunate one has to settle at McDonald,if they could afford it.

I asked myself, which group should I belong to. I don't think I belong to either one. However, I rather belong to the group who are wiser. Wiser as in able to accept money is not a measurement to your status. Yes, money is important, but knowledge and practicing good morale is more important to me as I aged. I do not need to 'satay' (kow tow) to the upper class people, or looked down at the lower class group. I will try to treat them equally, even I know they may not bring any benefits to me. What important is I am able to earn their respect for who I am.

Parenting skills (from Parenthots website)

I came across this websites and I think it's excellent to address some of the common questions which parents have. Enjoy!

http://parenthots.com/features/How-to-parent-Gen-Y-and-Z-%281%29.aspx

It's NOT HARD to say I'm SORRY!

Sometimes I wonder, saying sorry is so easy. It's a good excuse for one to escape. I wanted to accept the apologies but the initial intention was not real.

For example, a friend went to the office, and could not find a cup. She then went to the pantry and took somebody's mug without permission. I reminded her that we should not be using other people's mug. (I think she's hoping the owner will not claim it for that day). When the owner wanted it back, she said she's sorry she thought the mugs laying in the pantry has no one using it.

So now, why say sorry, when you already have an intention in the beginning. The sorry to me is not genuine, it's inconsiderate, and it's an excuse to off the hook.

These days whenever I encountered scenario like this, I would tell the person, don't use it when you don't meant it. Admit your misbehavior and moved on. Sorry is not meant to be used as an escape path!

Communication breakdown at More More Cha Malaysian Restaurant

I took a friend to a Malaysian restaurant for a teh tarik (tea). The place has a big outdoor compound and it's comfortable. I looked at the menu and just ordered 2 teh tarik which cost AUD3.90 each. Later I saw on the menu for any order you made, you only pay AUD1.00 for the tea. Then I look at the waitress and asked her, in that case if I order a Roti Canai at AUD5.50, then add another AUD2, it will come put to AUD7.50 instead of AUD7.90 just for 2 tea.

The waitress heard me and mumbled something I don't know, giggling. She walked away with a smile and I thought she acknowledged my logic. Later after I asked for the bill, it totaled up to AUD13.90!! I have to pay more. I asked the waitress over and I told them I have asked if I pay only AUD1.00 for the team. This time the waitress who took the order without seeing me (speaking through another waitress) told us that she did not say it was AUD1.00. She never acknowledged that.

In the end, I could only express my disappointment. I felt cheated. For the business, you pay what you eat. The waitress don't give a budge of my complaint, but I was asked to pay the full amount. Will I go back to a restaurant that has this attitude? I think NO! Hopefully.

U hate the person or the behavior?

I saw a colleague (Mr. B) outside the office, I asked how did you go with my boss Miss A. The colleague responded, 'I can't talk to her, she's rude and emotional'. I was quite shocked to hear that.

Next day, I saw Miss A. I asked her, 'How did you go with Mr. B'? She responded, 'I think Mr. B didn't hate my as a person, he only hates me because of the work'.

After digesting the information, I was wondering to myself, can you hate the work pressure without hating the person? Can we really detach our emotions towards a person from the work? Moreover, is Miss A in denial, that it may make her feel better thinking that way?

It's just proven although we may have a situation, but whether Miss A, or Mr. B, without communicating well, each of them has their own opinion on each other.

Money and Friend

A friend rang up and need some money urgently. There were a few things which running my in my mind. Should I or shouldn't I? After a few stint of bad loan in the past, I came to a conclusions as below.

First, how well do you know your friend;
Second, what is the money used for;
Third, does he go for holiday later when he can afford to pay you some, but refused?;
Fourth; can he pay back the money with the agreement set before you loan;
Fifth, do you have a contract?
Lastly and most importantly, can you afford to lose that money once you loan it out?

At the end of it, yes we need to help our friend, but we also need to know our limit.

The respect to the king

Every time when I go for a movie in Bangkok, it reminded me of respect. Just before the movie begins, the national song will be played with the king's images on. At this time, we are expected to stand up and give our respect. I don't remember anywhere in other Asian countries that we do that to our leader. The token just reminded me how faithful the people are to their beloved king. After the national songs ended, instead of rushing to seat, you may see some even bow their head and then seat. If only other countries can gain such a respect, it's really tell me something how to gain respect and be respected.

An Iranian tale of "Separation" is brilliant!

I heard so much about the Iranian movie 'Separation' since last year. I was urged to watch it as it was a brilliant human drama. Also, this year, the movie won best foreign movie. I wonder why and with my little curiosity, I finally watched it in Bangkok, when I found it's showing in an Arthouse cinema.

The movie started with a simple scene of a couple in a lawyer office seeking a separation. However, that was just the beginning. The simple conflict then manifested into a deeper layer of conflicts. Conflicts within conflicts, and how it impacts the people around us.

What amazed me, when the difficult situations pushed everyone to their corner and one would give up their integrity or their beliefs in god. Lies after lies, and lead to an unresolved situation. When I thought I could sit down and try to think of a resolution, I felt it was too overwhelmed to stay on top of it.

I would highly recommend this movie if you like human drama. I love every confrontational scenes, it makes me thinks hard, how did we get here and for what reasons? Is it worth it?

My birthday last year ...

I could hardly recalled most of things which has happened last year. This was because last year was rather a turbulent year for me. I joined a department which expecting a lot of things from me. On top of that, I did not agree with how the management dictating us and in the end, I ended up with a lot of self conflicts. This in turn me into being very negative. I tried to convince myself I am right and trying to explain why the person I dealt with behaves unreasonably.

Anyway, what I can recall very well was my birthday. I was as usual wasn't in a good mood, I was indeed very sad I ended up with a situation I didn't feel motivated at all to work. However, my sister and my mom rang me up out of the blue. They told me they would take me out for a birthday dinner. My sister's bf will buy us a dinner. Somehow I wasn't moved that day, I just agreed to turn up. We dine but I kept very quiet, I think they may think I wasn't happy with the dinner. I did not tell them I was actually very disturbed that day, after getting a lot of screaming.

I tried very hard to smile and appreciate the food I had, but I just remembered I didn't enjoy it. That was my birthday last year. However, today when I looked back, my job will not change, it will still continue to be toxic. But I learned that, the negativity prevent me from appreciating what my family has done for me. I feel sorry for my own action. They made an effort to celebrate, but I made an effort to remain negative.

Anyway, from now on, it's a lesson learned. There will be continuously toxic bosses and toxic jobs out there, however, I must learn to detach my emotions from the job especially when the situation is toxic. I will not let the job ruined me and the people around me. I just need to deal with it. There is nothing more important than the people which surrounding us. The job is important when you are useful to them, but to your family, you are important to them in our lifetime.

For the love of your child ..

Today after lunch, Bahija, Ringgit, Dragon and myself was sitting at Starbucks. Then we bumped into a colleague who recently has a 8 months old baby boy that suffered from intestine inflammation. This requires medical surgery as the baby boy at that time was in a rather serious condition. The father explained to us on the procedures and surgery the baby has to go through.

Everything seems normal, until the father told us that before the surgery, the doctor told him to kiss the baby. It sounded like the doctor is telling him that he needs to be prepared for the surgery outcome. Dragon immediately said 'Don't tell me this it would make me cry'. However, the father actually has tears in his eyes when he relates the stories to us. I do not actually how much pain he has to go through, but I could tell his tears revealed the very pain which was put in front of him. Thank god, the baby is recovering well right now.

I wasn't sure if Bahija, Ringgit or Dragon noticed that, but like what I learned from my Applied Psychology course. The children is an extension of the parent's arm. The love of the parents cannot be replaced.

If I am a manager ....

If I am a manager :

I must know how to listen to my team;

I must know how to emphatize my team's challenges;

I must able to brainstorm together so we see a solution together;

I must able to take responsibility if my team did not perform up to standard;

I must able to defend my team, if there are unreasonable demand even from my own boss;

I must not lose my coolness and must set a good example to my team;

I must be patience;

I must think of my family's future but also understand other has their own family's too.

I must be more than a manager, I must be a leader;

Lastly, I must not be selfish;

If only I am a manager.

The Bridge

If you have visited Jakarta, you may come across a bridge from Nikko (now Pullman hotel) to Plaza Indonesia. I need to use that bridge whole of last week because from the hotel I stayed I am required to walk to the mall which has eateries for dinner. Few nights when I walked on the bridge I noticed some boys, mother and baby, or an elderly woman sitting across the bridge begging for money. Its not really a very colorful or jovial sight to be seen.

After my first walk passing there, I don't feel giving them cash, instead the next day I carried fruits in my bags and passed to them when they approach me. The first one I saw is a mother with a boy. The boy was playing on the floor, while the mother was begging. I asked if she needs an apple, and I put my arm out. She humbly asked his boy to drop everything on his hand, clean his hand, and asked him to walk towards me. Even begging, I feel the mother wants to maintain a certain integrity too.

The second one, is a boy sleeping on the floor. I noticed he was disabled. He is skinny and lying on the floor with his arms covering his eye (very hot and sunny and dusty). I walked toward him, and I called him, "Would you like an apple". I can see he hasn't bathed for days, and he gave me a very innocent smile and said, 'Thank you pak'. Indeed he was a bit shy and surprised.

Everyday, the bridge has hundreds of people passing by. I am sure there are kind Samaritan may give them some money to survive. I guess we are all taught charity begins at home, however, an apple a day, we may do a lot of soul a lot of favor. I do wish everyday, I can pass that bridge and drop some food. For some of us, it's self-indulgent, but for them across the bridge, they merely just want to see another brighter day.

The Artist

I have decided to watch 'The Artist' at a cineplex in Jakarta. I noticed the movie is not showing in KL, and the show is showing in Sydney. It may be finished if I plan to watch in Sydney later. Anyway, it's really an Oscar worthy movie. The actor and actress was brilliant. Their expressions in their acting were so heartfelt. They dance and do their silly movement like the Charlie Chaplin's era. I followed the story without even feeling bored. I am indeed surprised the movie can be as exciting although it was 90% silence. I haven't seen the rest of the best movie nominees, however, 'The Artist' is truly a trip to the nostalgic lane. Simply entertaining.

The object of product incentives

I was having lunch with a young lady who is a product sales manager for a particular company. We were talking how competitive the business market can be. This young mother of 2 children, is youthful looking, slim and attractive. However, she told me she need to invest more on her look. I was surprised as I thought she really has no flaws, from her physical look, everything looks perfect.

She then explained that she recently went to some customer sites bidding for business, she learned that her competitor hired a bunch of supermodel gals in sales. They are tall, slender, blonde (dyed), pretty and walk like a cat! She then complaint, there is no way she can compete with them. We found it's a good strategy, say when customers want to buy Model X, they send Miss A, when it's Model P, the representative is Miss B. The customer could remember these products by associating to these super models. If they are very pretty, they may want to see them more often.

I guess now we understand what these power of the super models in the business world. We think they are really the real product incentives. In order to encourage the customers to buy from them, the businesses are willing to invest in these models. Good strategy! As for my friend, she has to keep up with these models, or else her sales may go down.

Sir your Jam

This is real story which I heard from a cab driver. In Malaysia, the usages of English may not as extensive compares to the last 20 years. Hence some of the younger generation may speak in a broken English.

One day a middle eastern man walked passed a metal detector at the airport, however, the detector beeped. Then the security guard told the man to go back and walk through again. This time it still beep, but the security guard noticed he was still wearing a metal watch. The security guy said to him, 'Sir your Jam'!

The middle eastern man heard and then staring jumping up and down!

The Incredible story of the KL Taxi

I went to the Indonesian embassy today to process for a business visa. It was really crowded and usually you will see a row of taxis that are waiting there. However, these taxis will not use their meters but they will set a (high) fixed price if you intend to board.

As I already knew their tricks, I will not usually board them. Instead I will wave (melambai lambai) my hand to the passing taxis. One of the taxi stopped by and wind his window down. I was excited as I was able to stop one and I told him the location I would like to go. The taxi drive then turn his head and said RM35 (usually RM11) to go there! My smiley face instantly turned to flat line and I said, 'Oh no thank you" Then the taxi driver inside the car shouted back rudely, "No money Go Away"! Then I shouted back, "Yes I have no money"!

What has the world become. People are so hunger for money. They are so focus with what they want they will not consider their actions are appropriate. Anyway, I wish the taxi driver good luck!

You have a nice bag!

As I have promised myself this year, I must do one good thing every day. Today, I attempted again. I was sitting on a cafe having my grilled fish. As I was almost finishing I saw a dark skin Samoan lady, holing a shopping bag which was embroidered. It has a nice pink picture of a lady walking towards a white sheep. I can tell it's hand embroidered. She was standing at the ordering counter and paying her food. When the owner handed her the change, she said, 'Thank you'. However, she wasn't smiling nor unfriendly, she looks more like concern look. I told myself, on my way out, I will tell her how pretty the bag is. One good thing a day I told myself. Make someone happy so they see a reason to keep going.

As I walked passed her I said, 'Maam, you have a nice bag'. She then turned to me and say, 'Oh what's wrong with my bag'. She looks more concerned and kept looking at her bag to check if anything was missing. I began to feel panicky as well, as I think she misheard me. Then I stressed again, 'Maam, I said you have a pretty bag'. Then she sighed, 'Oh, thank you'. The look at her face was like just recovering from an anxiety attack. I walked away and I wasn't sure if I have made or break her day!

My asian upbringing ...

I walked into a cafe one morning. I told the cafe owner that I wanted chicken avocado on toasted brown bread. And a soy cappuccino too. She nodded and asked me to take a seat.

Few minutes later, food was served, however, I noticed there was a thin slice of (my initial thought) of chicken. I took a bite then I realised it was a slice of cheese. So I walked to the owner again, and I told her 'Maam, for my bread I asked for chicken and avocado'. She then said, 'I heard you said Cheese and Avocado'. My first reaction was should I corrected what she has seems to misheard. Then I just told myself it's ok, I will deal with it. I wonder, why didn't I fight back and say 'No, you have misheard'. Instead I let the other party to claim what they think is right. They may have not pay enough attention and resulting in what I do not want.

The only reason I could point out is how we were being brought up. The thought of not going into confrontational may have been programmed in my mind. We prefer world peace. However, world peace may not happened, because the other party may feel, hey I can actually win this by putting my foot down. Oh well, whichever way, communication is tough. To win or not to win is always sparked in our daily interactions. I guess there is no right or wrong answer to this, what matters are do I feel more peaceful within myself.

The lesson in Belanja and Generosity!

Belanja (a treat) is tie with generosity? Is this true, urrm wait a minute how about this story here ....

I have paid my host a 30 days rental, and it came up to 40aud each day. However, my stay cut short due to travelling. Net of it, I have to leave 2 days earlier, which means I have overpaid 80aud. I told my host it's ok, leave it as it is, when he said he may want to refund me. I told him he can pay me back in a form of lunch or dinner. He agreed.

Yesterday, he told me he will buy me lunch. We went out, and had a kebab mix plate which cost AUD20. However, I told him I can't have other meat than chicken, while the mix plate came with a strip of chicken, beef and lamb. He told me I can have all the chicken. So in the end, the meal itself I have only ate 1/3 of the whole plate. To be exact it comes up to 7 or 8AUD. When we about to finish, I told him it's ok I can pay my portion which I don't mind paying 10AUD. He said no no no I BELANJA. I agreed then since he really has nothing to lose.

After that, we walked out and passed by several shops. He stopped and looked at the sugar cane shop. He said, 'Wow this looks nice, probably I should have one. do you want one?" I said, 'No Thanks.", Then he said, 'OK it's your turn to TREAT me now, I want one". I was taken aback. I didn't ask for a treat, but now he insisted that it was my turn to pay now. The sugar cane drink cost 4.50AUD. So back to my maths, the treat given by him was 8AUD now minus off 4.50AUD = The entire treat I got was 3.50AUD.

I was thinking to myself, why do you want to BELANJA me, when you start showing some of this trait where I must be fair to each other? Generosity is about not expecting something back. I guess I am wrong, every one has their own definition of Generosity and BELANJA. After today, I told him I don't plan to eat out with him. No hard feelings, but it's less complicated this way :-)

Whitney Houston thanks for the memories

A colleague sent me a message, Whitney Houston is dead. At 48, that was way too young. Anyway, Whitney has been struggling with her life since after late 90s. One point she told the media she will fight back and then she went for hiding. She could not climb back the status where she was once the IT girl. However, I do feel for her as she had at least tried.

I still remembered she came to Australia to perform. However, due to her lack of energy and erratic behaviors, she was booed on the stage. Later she canceled most of her concerts in many places. I was thinking, have we really given her a chance to prove she can make it again? Probably a chance may have been given, but it would be hard for her to reclaim her position in the past. We all have to accept that if we feel like supporting her.

Anyway, the rise to the fight has come to an end yesterday. She is gone, and all is left is the quaint 80s hits playing at the back of my mind. Thank you Whitney for the songs that uplift our spirits. I hope you rest in peace.

Life is always better in Overseas ....

When I am in KL, often others said to me, "Oh you are so lucky, life in Australia is so much better than Kuala Lumpur". In KL this la that la, like a place where so many crimes and other unfavorable situations. Its always better in overseas especially developed countries.

Well, just last week, while I was sleeping, hoping this beautiful friendly place is what other people told me. Dreaming the place with such Calm, peaceful, and safe. Suddenly, my dream was interrupted with a sudden noises from outside.

I overheard a man breathing heavily sounding very disturbed and unhappy. I looked outside, and noticed he was kicking the fence made of wooden planks. He kicked very hard so that every plank will come off. Initially I did not know what was the fuss, I thought a cat made a noise outside. I whispered loudly, like "OOI". However, when I looked out, I saw the man was continuing with his Bruce Lee kick.

Later a girl came to him, and gave him a hug. He seems calmer then they walked off together. This is just one example of how people can react in the neighborhood. They take on other people's properties or a person to feel better. So tell me now, why we always compare where we live with other places?

The outcome, is below :

Don't Judge Me laaaaa...

Recently again at my host's place. He told me he doesn't like to be judged. He didn't want to question others and judge the person. Hence, he will rarely ask anyone about their background and their doing. He felt by doing that he is avoid judging anyone.

Then I asked myself, can this be real in the real world? When I talk to a stranger, I would ask questions in order to find out who the person is. Once I know the person, then I may form some opinion based on my experience. I thought it's all natural. As a courtesy, of course this opinion would not be shared as it may contain offensive or in favor's opinion. The reality I found is when it's in favor, or positive, I may say, "Oh wow you are smart", or "You are so kind". The person may feel good about it. At the same time, the negative may sound like 'You are so arrogant'. Then the person may become furious. But the net of it, my mind already made a judgement, in one way or another.

I guess, there is no right or wrong reason to make judgement, however, in our daily social life, we need to show some social etiquette. When I keep my opinion to myself it does not mean I am not judging, I just didn't want you to know what I am thinking. However, probably it may make you feel better for not knowing the truth.

Argument

I had dinner with my host today. However, it was heated up and sound like a big argument in the restaurant. All eyes on us. What actually happened was a discussion of my host career and life. I tried to brainstorm some of the decision he made in life. However, it took a sharp turn when I told him he can be replaced if the company made some major decision. I was trying to let him know the good and bad side of his decision especially in making other people aware that he is very important and indispensable.

I may had put the word wrongly and I could sensed his ego was bruised. He started to think I was making judgement on him hence I asked questions which may oppose to his actions. However I was trying to brainstorm so that he aware of the consequences for sounding arrogant. In the end he ended up defending and I was trying to make my own point as well. I do not think I was giving him a counseling but sharing my own experience with him. The outcome was loud debate in a tiny restaurant. He told me later many eyes were looking at us, but I told him I wasn't feeling shy. We are merely getting our point across. I guessed next time I will not discuss such heavy subject on a dinner table.

Giving

This year according to my Chinese zodiac, I need to donate in order to collect good fortune. Hence I made it a point to do so. I may not be rich enough to hand over cashes to a stranger everyday. Therefore I came up with a list of giving.

- give to the needy on the street be it be food or cash
- make someone's day by encouraging them
- offer my help when I could
- donate to the non government organization
- donate blood

I pledge to do at least on of the above each day.

Job interview

I am looking for a job within the company I am working in. Today I went for an interest interview. Meaning in case the hiring manager is interested to hire me later, she can keep me in mind.

I was quite confident of what the hiring manager wants, however, I wasn't sure if she prefer financial background or IT background. I am mostly with IT skills. Anyway, when I met the manager the meeting was quite casual. However, the manager was struggling to understand my resume. I ended up first 10 minutes explaining to her my experiences according to the resume.

As we moved on, I found she prefer financial background, but at the same time I recognised she needs my skills too, but the priority is on financial. I told her I wasn't dissapoint with the meeting, because what important is I have established this network with her. IF she has opportunities or know someone who is hiring, probably she can let me know.

She gave me some tips on what area I may want to expand, however, it was something I want to stay away. I just nodded and acknowledged it. All I can do is to wait and put my fishing line into the seas. If it's mine it will be hooked up :)

Communism

I am currently staying at a host in Sydney and he happens to be a Malaysian. He is very ambitious and an idealist. Knowing his strength he feels he must work hard to make a lot of money for older age. He also dreamed of having a girlfriend who fits all his criterias.

I feel it's important when we are younger it's worth to take risk and try. After all there is nothing to lose especially at the of below 30. I perfectly understand that need to challeng yourself. However today I shared my view especially my need to change job. A job with low pay and probably low appreciation. I told him we tipped too much to greed due to capitalism. And the unlucky poor people won't able to survive. I feel there should be balance but I don't plan to change everyone. I can only do my part.

My host disagreed with me. He felt capitalism is great and I am a communist. You reap what you work hard for and things got advance due to capitalism. He felt if the person can't afford to buy say an iPad then they don't deserve to enjoy it. But after many rich people made money they donate to the poor. He felt it was such a great cause.

I feel there is truth to what he says but I feel there should be a balance. To me the root is our behavior. We are driven to think being rich is being loaded with money, then everything follows. I feel its more than that. It's the behavior of being able to give whether you are rich or poor does matter to me. When you are willing yo give we tends to be balance.

However in this world they are good and bad behavior people. it's hard to balance but everyone deserve to be respected. If I quote what my host thinking, I feel he may not respect people who are poor and unlucky. For them they didn't try hard and act up. At the back on my mind if only everyone is given a fair chance, and that begins with you and me.

Kung Hei Fatt Choy 2012

I wish all my reader a very happy Chinese new year. I wish the year is filled with meaningful and quality time both at home and work. Most importantly great health to everyone.

Kung hei Kung hei.

Bulldozer

Today I had a debate with my taugeh. He told me yesterday, some data screwed up and he couldn't give us the information to prepare. However, we must send out an important instruction tomorrow. In order to do that, we must get data from ABC team.

I told him I will try my best to get it. When I contacted ABC team, there were very busy and in a meeting. When I managed to find them, they tried their best to give us the information, but the data was not accurate. We have to go through a few round of emails and explanations.

Come today, one of the file still hasn't reach, because the data was too huge and the system went time out. This morning my boss asked what time can he has the information. I told him, still working on it. Then I told him everyone need more time, because we practically gave the instruction yesterday and I feel it's not reasonable. However, he told me 2 days is fair. Everyone is paid to do their job, not sitting there do nothing. I pointed out again, we are not talking about who is not working we are talking about reasonable time. He typed back and said, 2 days is fair, and sometimes we must must work HARDER and BEYOND! I told him, OK I got it but I just want him to know, it doesn't mean I AGREED with him.

The whole day my spirit was dampen. I felt one can become so unreasonable and can't see their action on how they can impact on others. The net of his style is .. DROP everything give me what i want, after that you can do whatever you want!

Encik Shukri the cab driver

Since I travel quite a bit in the past, I have a regular driver call Mr N. However, when Mr. N is busy, he will dispatch his friend Encik Shukri to pick me up from home.

When Encik Shukri drove me to airport, we constantly talk about the people in general. How people became greedy, and putting their interest before others. A dog eat dog world. It wasn't unpleasant at all, but just a reminder of the state of the world today, and what we can do or not do to further contribute to these matters which we viewed as madness. He has a very funny way of delivering his sentence, funny but sometimes double meaning. There was a hint of disappointment especially in his laughter. And when he laughed I can tell he was wearing dentures :))

Encik Shukri also shared with me his relationships with his sons, and the ideals for them, however, he knew sometimes the future is up to the children in the end. In general Encik Shukri was rather chatty but he has certain ethical values which you need to pay attention to. The sole breadwinner for the family so working hard was the only choice. He has to put in a lot of hours till midnight in which he preferred to meet the family needs.

Today, I received a SMS from Mr. N. He told me if I would like to contribute to a tabung for Mr. Shukri. For him, he has passed away, and Mr. N thought he died because of work exhaustion. He has been constantly working at night and got back home at wee hours feeling tired. I can only remember the last time I saw him could be 3 months ago. After he dropped me at the airport, I told him to stay happy, and I will see him soon (depending on Mr. N's arrangement). Now I believe it won't happen. For me, only a memory was left behind. May the creator be with you Encik Shukri.

The year of dragon

For the year of dragon, there is a list of things I need to do for my zodiac. In order to be in harmony with myself and others.

These includes :

1. Donate to needy;
2. Donate blood to expel the negative 'chi';
3. Keep low profile;
4. Learn to be humble and less vocal;
5. Carry rooster pendants to distract the dragon;
6. Carry the alliance zodiac with me;
7. Spend wisely;
8. Avoid big investments;
9. Travel more is good, but avoid South East;
10. Tap into other experts for help, when meeting challenges.

These are what I can think of. Hopefully, I can come out with balance and positive 'chi' :))

My conversation with my ex boss Mr. LimST

Last week while shopping for cookies, I bumped into my ex boss LIMST. He has retired few years ago. I saw him standing next to a trolley full of cookies and stuffs. He was almost looked like as if he was sleeping while standing.

I approached him, and pat at his shoulder. I said, 'Hi ST, how are you?'. We exchanged a few words and it seems life has been OK for him after retiring. His daughter graduated from architect in Melbourne is seeking a full time job in Australia. However, she can only manage to find some part time job as it was rather tough to find a permanent one. Then I learned his younger son, is also studying in Melbourne and living together with the sister.

I offered him by saying, if you do come to Sydney let me know. I greeted him Gong Xi Fa Cai and hope to stay in touch. He nodded and then he walked towards his family. His daughter has definitely looked grown up. I just smiled from far and continue with my chores.

Manage the manager

I want to document this event today. I had discussions with my boss last Friday, however, the idea was not received well because she kept on saying it does not make sense. Over the weekend, I was kinda disturbed because on Monday morning I have to try again and this time with my side kick to explain her methods.

Come Monday, I took a deep breath, and stay calmed. I reminded myself a sentence I read in the paper 'Humility brings respect by itself. It subdues the heart of others'. I told myself I will stay very calm, and try to explain in a simple way. Question the question and put things in the right perspective.

Throughout the session, my sherman tank manager will just scream very loud when she felt we are wasting her time or it does not lead to anywhere. I told her firmly. I disagreed and spoke calmly, that this is not a waste of time, this discussion will help us to be objective and clear. Everyone's ideas are heard and debated. I heard a strong sigh, but we went on ok.

After we presented the method, my boss kept attacking she disagreed how it was done. I went on and agreed and see her point, but I explain further the reason why we did this way. Finally we agreed on how we think it should be read. I tried very hard not to explode, instead I constantly check her understanding before proceeding.

In the end, she understood, she knew our concern. She told us she will go back to her manager to clarify further. I told her thank you, the whole objective is not about who is right or wrong, but which is the consistent way so in longer term we all do the same method.

She agreed and she thanked me. I recognized today I won half the battle. I did not explode and challenge her!

Still hunting ...

Its mid January now and I have yet to find a job. I noticed in Australia most jobs are very targeted at specific skills e.g. Sales, sap expert, security analyst. I am not qualified for any of them. My current role will start it's review very soon. I have tried to ask myself do I want to escape from the job or from my boss. I concluded it's a bit of both but I did not jump into emotional conclusion. The job is politicking. If you follow the book sometimes it's unfair, and when you follow your heart some people will cheat. So I am trapped in this ethical values of mine. Frustration mount when I try to logic out with the business but the one with power is always winning. Some asked me to just do it and follow what the boss wants. How do you follow when you are ethically challenged? It's something embedded in me it's my core values in order to function. I have tried to voice out but a Sherman tank would not back down. I could manage once a few times, but with every session is being torpedoed, I just feel I may end up resenting.

Hence I feel I am justifying here, but I feel once I am demotivates I don't give my 100%

Job ah job where are you?

Homestay around the world ..where can I find?

I recently was looking for a short term stay in Sydney. I found a site where home owner play host or just mainly renting out a room or entire house to guests. The prices are definitely much cheaper than a hotel or even hostel. The range of the properties can range from a studio to a chalet. I just tried book a place and it's very easy and friendly.

Go visit AIRBNB